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  • skythewood's Avatar
    4,282 posts since Jul '07
    • Sep 8, 2008
      Matchmaking meet

      They share CVs to find mates for their children at first such event here By Goh Chin Lian

      Parents took matters into their own hands, saying their children were too busy for a social life. -- ST PHOTO: ASHLEIGH SIM
      WITH a picture of her son in her handbag, housewife Wang Lianzhi mingled with some 150 parents at the Speakers' Corner yesterday for a mass matchmaking session.

      'My son's 30. He's never had a girlfriend. He's working on his computer all the time and seldom goes out,' explained Mrs Wang, 67.

      So she decided to play Cupid, distributing his business card to other parents.

      It was the first parents' matchmaking session, organised by dating agency Clique Wise which had taken up a suggestion by Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong.

      PM Lee had floated the idea of having parents play matchmaker for their children in his National Day Rally speech last month.

      He described how thousands of parents in Beijing secretly sought out spouses for their children at such sessions, commonly held in parks, and suggested Singapore parents try it too.

      Yesterday, they did. Parents took matters into their own hands, saying their children were too busy for a social life.

      Many like Mrs May Jow, 60, came without their children's knowledge. 'I took my daughter's photograph from the drawer without telling her,' she said.

      The matchmaking process was simple: Parents exchanged details of their children like age, education and current job, and asked to see a picture of the 'candidate'. Some whipped out passport-sized photographs, others 4R-sized pictures. One parent came with an 8R computer printout of the family posing with the candidate in a graduation gown.

      Parents were not only scrutinising the candidate's looks, but also sussing out the candidate's parents to see if they came from similar backgrounds. If all goes well, they exchange phone numbers.

      Some parents like Mrs Jow were on the lookout for candidates who matched their children's height and age.

      'The age difference should be about three to four years and he has to be at least 1.76m tall,' said Mrs Jow, whose daughter is aged 30 and is 1.68m tall.

      Parents hunting for a son-in-law also wanted someone with a higher educational qualification and a stable career.

      Said housewife L.H. Heng, 55: 'My daughter has a polytechnic diploma. Her spouse cannot have any lesser than that.'

      The session's organiser, Ms Lydia Gan, said the event was held at Speakers' Corner as the older generation was familiar with Hong Lim Park. It was also free.

      All Ms Gan had to do was register online with the National Parks Board, since rules were eased to allow outdoor demonstrations at Speakers' Corner from Sept 1.

      While the matchmaking session was registered as an exhibition, and not a demonstration, it did draw onlookers like odd job labourer Jeff Tan, 60. He had dropped by after shopping in nearby Chinatown, thinking he would catch a protest in progress.

      But there was none. So far, only non-profit group Hearer of Cries has held a demonstration, staging a 10-minute protest against employers who abuse maids.

      Mr Tan said: 'I wouldn't come here specially. I work in Changi and I'm living in Tampines. It's too far.'

      chinlian@sph.com.sg

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    FireIce's Avatar
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    • actually this morling my mom told me she want to go
      i told her 'if u want to find a 小老公 outside, i is ok one'

  • Fatum's Avatar
    24,549 posts since Aug '05
  • skythewood's Avatar
    4,282 posts since Jul '07
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      actually this morling my mom told me she want to go
      i told her 'if u want to find a 小老公 outside, i is ok one'

      she probably went... so just wait for the good news!

  • Chunseah's Avatar
    225 posts since May '08
    • PM idea no bad lah...at least less single man and women around.

       

      Everytime working with single old women boss, they always try to make you work like them, becos they commit all their time on work as thry have no family.

       

      Everytime work with Single old man boss, They always want you to Chiong like them, if not then you have lesser chance to promote.. 

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    126,618 posts since Feb '01
    • Originally posted by FireIce:

      actually PM ask PA to do
      but i think PA sleeping lah

      i'm forced to work with PA because of my jobscope...

      here's the total list of what i think they are good for...

      1.

  • Anonymous User's Avatar
    196 posts since Jun '07
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    1,884 posts since Dec '04
    • this is the most pathetic solution or path that we have adopted.

      when it's too much to bear to support a family, nobody, even parents can force anybody to get married.

      this kind of thing is good, let parents find more ways to create problems for the working adults as well as strain on family relationships.

       

      if I were to be subjected to this, I'd be so embarassed.

  • Beaten_And_Damned's Avatar
    467 posts since Nov '07
    • when will the stupid parents learn NEVER to interfere in our freaking life

       

      and to the PM- this is never GOING to work cause YOU forced it on us!icon_lol.gif

  • skythewood's Avatar
    4,282 posts since Jul '07
  • Fatum's Avatar
    24,549 posts since Aug '05
    • Originally posted by Anonymous User:

      club30 people jia lat liao?  =s

      wat's with club 30 and this ? .....

       

  • Anonymous User's Avatar
    196 posts since Jun '07
    • Originally posted by Fatum:

      wat's with club 30 and this ? .....

      nothing.... unless ur in the club & is still single....

      but does it still work? the 相亲 thingy?  Speed-dating would have been better...

  • xiiaostarry's Avatar
    308 posts since Apr '08
    • LOL..the world is talking about moving forward in terms of technology blah blah (As compared to the past..)

       

      & yet..it seems like SG is moving backwards..going back to the "primitive" age of the 50s?60s? whereby matchmaking sessions are popular among parents..

  • Anonymous User's Avatar
    196 posts since Jun '07
    • Originally posted by xiiaostarry:

      LOL..the world is talking about moving forward in terms of technology blah blah (As compared to the past..)

       

      & yet..it seems like SG is moving backwards..going back to the "primitive" age of the 50s?60s? whereby matchmaking sessions are popular among parents..

      No...~ it's because sg is moving too quickly liao... people cant find time to find partners... unless u go a.f.f ...

       

  • Kuali Baba's Avatar
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  • xiiaostarry's Avatar
    308 posts since Apr '08
    • Originally posted by Anonymous User:

      No...~ it's because sg is moving too quickly liao... people cant find time to find partners... unless u go a.f.f ...

       

      more like s'poreans bo time to "pa tor" cuz of hectic wrk schedule..

      so the most impt tt govt shd do is to enforce "3 DAYS WORK RULE"..

       

      Mon-Wed : Work

      Thurs-Fri : Know more friends day

      Sat-Sun : Getting to know friends better day

       

      =D

       

      BUT THEN HOR, monthly salary MUST remain the same..wahahahaha

       

       

  • Chunseah's Avatar
    225 posts since May '08
    • Originally posted by xiiaostarry:

      LOL..the world is talking about moving forward in terms of technology blah blah (As compared to the past..)

       

      & yet..it seems like SG is moving backwards..going back to the "primitive" age of the 50s?60s? whereby matchmaking sessions are popular among parents..


      Moving forward with technology blindly, is more stupid.

       

      Learn from history and modify the way of doing things to get better result, is smart

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