I have liked this m’sian girl since last year, but recently, I started to talk to her when I found out that she is working at a supermarket near my home. During other times, I’ll see her in the school computer lab.

Usually she will be doing her work with her male friends in the lab and I didn’t dare to go forward and talk to her. When we meet eye to eye, I just smiled at her and she will smile back. But that’s about it. Not that I dont want to go and talk to her, but I was kind of nervous everytime I see her.

Also, one of her male friends are in bad terms with me, because we had a fight over rent issues (which later I moved out because I didnt want to see him again).

To me, she is a perfect girl who I think I can get along very well with. The kind of a nerdy type that don’t sport any make ups and wears T-shirts to uni almot everyday. So ordinary but so extraordinary to me.

I feel that time is running out because the semester is coming to a close in mid nov, and she will graduating and returning to m’sia and I will also be going back sg.

I really hate myself for not being a MAN despite being 24 years old. I know I should do something fast, because there are other guys who are interested in her. It will be a massive lost opportunity if I dont take any actions.

Sometimes I just think too much and therefore, not acting natural anymore. I know this kind of things should be taken to as-it-comes-along but I am hesistating alot because of unforseen problems that might happen. It worries me a great deal. After all,we are from different countries.

Should I go for it and show it through my actions that I like her?

What do you guys/girls think about this issue?

Cool,

Girls don't like timid guys.

We want guys who can express their feelings.

We want guys who has self-confidence.

It's not just this Malaysian girl you are losing your chances with. You are not gonna score with any girls as long as you act like a coward.

So.. get your acts together.. and claim what you think you deserve.

Try the old fashion method...

Love letter... but must write properly... use the letter to call her to meet you at somewhere in the campus or sth... dun bring a fren along

DO or DIE... method sia... beri scary one worhs...

i only recommend this since you dun have much time.

Originally posted by Coolcircle:

I have liked this m’sian girl since last year, but recently, I started to talk to her when I found out that she is working at a supermarket near my home. During other times, I’ll see her in the school computer lab.

Usually she will be doing her work with her male friends in the lab and I didn’t dare to go forward and talk to her. When we meet eye to eye, I just smiled at her and she will smile back. But that’s about it. Not that I dont want to go and talk to her, but I was kind of nervous everytime I see her.

Also, one of her male friends are in bad terms with me, because we had a fight over rent issues (which later I moved out because I didnt want to see him again).

To me, she is a perfect girl who I think I can get along very well with. The kind of a nerdy type that don’t sport any make ups and wears T-shirts to uni almot everyday. So ordinary but so extraordinary to me.

I feel that time is running out because the semester is coming to a close in mid nov, and she will graduating and returning to m’sia and I will also be going back sg.

I really hate myself for not being a MAN despite being 24 years old. I know I should do something fast, because there are other guys who are interested in her. It will be a massive lost opportunity if I dont take any actions.

Sometimes I just think too much and therefore, not acting natural anymore. I know this kind of things should be taken to as-it-comes-along but I am hesistating alot because of unforseen problems that might happen. It worries me a great deal. After all,we are from different countries.

Should I go for it and show it through my actions that I like her?

What do you guys/girls think about this issue?

what uni ?? she go back to malaysia, u come back to singapore...

go for it lor... never try never know

wait her jiu hu kias whack you den u knowv

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Cool,

Girls don't like timid guys.

We want guys who can express their feelings.

We want guys who has self-confidence.

It's not just this Malaysian girl you are losing your chances with. You are not gonna score with any girls as long as you act like a coward.

So.. get your acts together.. and claim what you think you deserve.

I concur what you said.  

There are few with courage to woo gals.    Far too many cowardly guys in sg.     They just simply allow themselves to be obstacles.   Cowardly guys, guys with no confidence, are very unattractive to females.    How do they expect gals to give them chance if they behave this way, OMG.

Face it, if because of this because of that, you will always be asking ppls this same question till you are 70. Going for it, never always garrantee  positive result but not going for it, garrantte NO result....that's my thought.

just do it loh

but u might have mential mind set that u might not success at all

casue u dont know wat this gal is thinking about. she might already have a Bf or even husband for all u know.

but make it know to her that u like her.

u no action = no chance

got action = still might have chance

ya msia girls marry young

just tell her directly..seriously. Just chat with her,then when u both have nth to talk abt alr,tell her "erm..do u know i like u? haha" then she will confirm reply " really? haha" then u say "ya". the rest is up to u

Go for it before it'too late ...

walowe....y all of u teach TS the wrong thing? Look at the chinese word "Love", there is a reason why the word "friend" is in there. Everything starts from being a friend first. From a friend to lovers then to lifetime companion, it takes much effort and feelings from both side and of cos fate plays a part too.

u think wad? In movies, the guy out of nowhere confess then the girl accept him ah? If u r filthy rich and handsome then maybe, otherwise forget it. Everything definitely have to start from being friends first, then work your way inside.

More haste less speed. If she really was never into you, its no point going after, again it is unlike in the movies where the guy keep going after the girl after being rejected so many times then happy ending girl accept him. NO! There are 6 billion people in this world and the ratio of guys to girls is skewed to guy's advantage :) Stop imagining there is 1 and only that super duper special girl for you. Its just ur heart deluding urself. Mix around with ppl, you'ld open up abd of course more choices. Love & Marriage is a natural yet mysterious thing, thats why it is so beautiful. U could probably work more on your characteristics, career, and other areas you need to improve on.  

Im pretty sure you wanna find a rock-solid relationship which is based on trust and solid friendship at a base.

Anybody agrees with me pls raise ur hand pls.

24!?

Let her know your presence first. Okay somehow you got that. Smile and eye contact.

I think if you confess to her now (and suddenly), she will be  =O  speechless. 

First, you need to talk to her first. Chat up. At least get her name, numbers, msn, etc. So that in case she left the country out of a sudden, y'all still can contact through a certain medium.

Yes you should go for it. The confession part can come later. Establish a base first yo.

go for her!!!!!!

all the best

aiya knn just go for it la.

u 拖拖拉拉 and see lo.

semester finish liao she go away liao den u will slap urself.

"why i no chase her? i sibeh regret it now!"

cfm one.

Originally posted by Fantagf:

I concur what you said.  

There are few with courage to woo gals.    Far too many cowardly guys in sg.     They just simply allow themselves to be obstacles.   Cowardly guys, guys with no confidence, are very unattractive to females.    How do they expect gals to give them chance if they behave this way, OMG.

A common trait of a winner, is not afraid of failures.

Smart girls are attracted to winners, that's part of our survival instinct.

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

A common trait of a winner, is not afraid of failures.

Smart girls are attracted to winners, that's part of our survival instinct.

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends. 

 I am not afraid of failures or rejection, but I do need a good approach to make friends with her. I had no guts all of a sudden when I see her with her friends, it is kinda hard for me to talk without feeling a sense of awkwardness.

Should I visit her at the supermarket this weekend? I was thinking that I could go earlier in the day when she is working, and ask her out casually for a coffee after she gets off from work.

Will it be too fast?

Somehow, I also think that she will appreciate more if I chat up with her in front of her friends, so I don't know if it is still a good idea if I should disturb her at work.

Anyways, thanks everyone for their comments! I'll try to keep updates.

Originally posted by Coolcircle:

 I am not afraid of failures or rejection, but I do need a good approach to make friends with her. I had no guts all of a sudden when I see her with her friends, it is kinda hard for me to talk without feeling a sense of awkwardness.

Should I visit her at the supermarket this weekend? I was thinking that I could go earlier in the day when she is working, and ask her out casually for a coffee after she gets off from work.

Will it be too fast?

Somehow, I also think that she will appreciate more if I chat up with her in front of her friends, so I don't know if it is still a good idea if I should disturb her at work.

Anyways, thanks everyone for their comments! I'll try to keep updates.

Is that male friend whom you had a rent dispute with.. always with her ?

I suggest you send her a small bouquet of flowers to her work place.. for a little surprise.

With a short note.. " I think you're really sweet." and put in some candy with the flowers. Don't be a secret admirer.. put your REAL name on it.

Then go and visit her after she's received it, and see where it goes from there.

I know it may seem a little too "bah bah".. but girls do like their man to be romantic.

If she is really a very nice girl.. you're probably not the first guy to chase after her. So take heart .. if she is not so into you.

If her reaction is not what you're hoping for.. just let her know.. that it was a compliment.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

Is that male friend whom you had a rent dispute with.. always with her ?

I suggest you send her a small bouquet of flowers to her work place.. for a little surprise.

With a short note.. " I think you're really sweet." and put in some candy with the flowers. Don't be a secret admirer.. put your REAL name on it.

Then go and visit her after she's received it, and see where it goes from there.

I know it may seem a little too "bah bah".. but girls do like their man to be romantic.

If she is really a very nice girl.. you're probably not the first guy to chase after her. So take heart .. if she is not so into you.

If her reaction is not what you're hoping for.. just let her know.. that it was a compliment.

Jo,

Thanks so much for your suggestion!

I actually took the conventional method and chatted with her. It turned out really well.

In the end, I got her number and lunch date.

I felt so much better now, not because of the date, but because I have got off something which has been bugging me for a week.

Glad to hear that.     See? If you never try you'd never know. It's like now or never.

Keep us updated or something.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

A common trait of a winner, is not afraid of failures.

Smart girls are attracted to winners, that's part of our survival instinct.

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends.

 

 

Not all, but there are many sg guys really can't make it.   

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends.   This is true.   To me it depends, I may not accept all as friends.  

that is just being unfriendly.

Originally posted by jojobeach:

A common trait of a winner, is not afraid of failures.

Smart girls are attracted to winners, that's part of our survival instinct.

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends.

 

 

Originally posted by Fantagf:

Not all, but there are many sg guys really can't make it.   

So when we see a guy , who is afraid of rejection and failures.. we categorise him as a loser, and will only accept them as friends.   This is true.   To me it depends, I may not accept all as friends.  

 

Sort of true

Originally posted by skythewood:

that is just being unfriendly.

Well, you know, sometimes there's just only so much energy one has for people. Just imagine if you are a popular star, can you invest so much energy into all who like you? As much as you'd like to be friends with them, you also need to take care not to neglect your family and loved ones.

It's like spreading kaya. If you only have a certain amount on hand and you need to spread it, the more you spread on other bread, the less you have.

Originally posted by Coolcircle:

Jo,

Thanks so much for your suggestion!

I actually took the conventional method and chatted with her. It turned out really well.

In the end, I got her number and lunch date.

I felt so much better now, not because of the date, but because I have got off something which has been bugging me for a week.

Jiayou TS!

Originally posted by Lorry`:

Glad to hear that.     See? If you never try you'd never know. It's like now or never.

Keep us updated or something.

ok, time to report!

Last saturday, I brought her to the city for lunch, and took a long stroll around the harbour before settling down for chilled coffee.

I must say that it went very well, even better than I have expected! There is so many things to talk about, but I found myself chitchatting non-stop. She would reply me or ask me questions now and then, but I got a feeling that she is a quiet girl. Maybe she is shy, who knows.

But when there is a period of silence now and then, we would just look at each other and smile. No feeling of awkwardness at all. Throughout the date, I also tried to shows some signs that I like her.

At the end of the day, she told me that she will call me again for a second date, and it will be her treat this time. I am not too sure if she means it or just used that as a goodbye greeting.

My friends told me to play hard-to-get and not to call or text her (unless she take the initiative first) but I feel that I should at least be caring and send her goodnight smses.

I also got this strong urge to tell her that I like her (because I really do) but everyone just told me to hold my horses and wait out after a couple or more dates and not scare her off.

Lastly, I found out that she is just staying a street away, and I have this crazy idea of sending her flowers to her mailbox...

I really need good advices this time...and thanks for reading this boring story!